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Category: psychology

  • familiarity breeds…?

    Familiarity breed contempt, when one is judgemental.
    Familiarity can breed synergy when one is non-judgemental.

    Some people may be interesting to get to know at first, but after a while once we get to know a bit more about the darker sides over time, a distance starts developing. Prejudices, grudges and so on keep on accumulating even among the best of friends. Most of this is we never even are aware about. Sometimes one small incident gives rise to a split in a relationship, and even though that incident in itself might be very trivial and of no major consequence. Romance is just one example, where the so called love-marriages end up becoming hate-divorces! 😉

    Human nature is such that we get a kick out of finding faults in others and criticizing others.

    But with a little more patience and understanding, we can discover that there’s a much better kick in being non-judgemental. And in looking at the complete picture instead of just one or two narrow perspectives.

    Gandhi had said something interesting:

    “You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the ocean does not become dirty.”

    “drops” could even refer not just to people, but even different aspects of the same person – “A person is an ocean…” 🙂

  • some entertainment…

     

    “These are things we know that we know … there are things that we know we don’t know. But there are also unknown unknowns. There are things we don’t know we don’t know.”
    ~ Donald Rumsfeld

    Oprah Winfrey hosted a series of 10 live webinars with a very interesting teacher – a German born, resident of Canada, named Eckhart Tolle. Over 9 million copies of his books have been sold in United States of America. Below is just a very small excerpt.

    We may even have an extremely fit body, but our mind may not match it in fitness (for example the case of Del Potro who threw his shoes into the crowd in frustration when he lost a match in the recent Wimbledon )

    Here Eckhart speaks about our mind… the same basic science behind what you and me made up of. Not exactly covered in any school syllabus…

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    This (“pain body”) accumulated pain is a negative energy field that occupies your body and mind. If you look on it as an invisible entity in its own right, you are getting quite close to the truth. It’s the emotional pain body. It has two modes of being: dormant and active.

    The pain body wants to survive, just like every other entity in existence, and it can only survive if it gets you to unconsciously identify with it. It can then rise up, take you over, “become you,” and live through you. It needs to get its “food” through you. It will feed on any experience that resonates with its own kind of energy, anything that creates further pain in whatever form: anger, destructiveness, hatred, grief, emotional drama, violence, and even illness.

    So the pain body, when it has taken you over, will create a situation in your life that reflects back its own energy frequency for it to feed on. Pain can only feed on pain. Pain cannot feed on joy. It finds it quite indigestible.

    Once the pain body has taken you over, you want more pain. You become a victim or a perpetrator. You want to inflict pain, or you want to suffer pain, or both. There isn’t really much difference between the two. You are not conscious of this, of course, and will vehemently claim that you do not want pain. But look closely and you will that your thinking and behavior are designed to keep the pain going, for yourself and others.

    http://www.detoxifynow.com/et_pain_body.html

    Please note that the idea is to only reflect on one’s own life! 🙂

    See if you can relate it to any of the following articles:

  • intellectual but heartless

    Extremely intelligent and ‘well-educated’, Anders Behring Breivik learnt to make his own bomb using chemicals from fertilizers, use sophisticated weaponry, and plot and execute the whole thing. But SO completely cold and heartless.

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    From the news…
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  • roadside fun

    If we observe the reactions of the people, it gives us a clue about how our mind expects things to be in a certain way. It shows how this merely mechanical mental machinery comes to a halt, when it comes across the unexpected! 😛

    To be aware is to breathe life into the machinery.

  • aaruhitavaru ninage?

    Purandara Dasara haaDu… rendered for a Kannada TV Serial…

    [mp3j track=”aaruhitavaru.mp3″]

    Lyrics from ourkarnataka.com:

  • can over a lakh of people be wrong?

    This was the question I was asked by a senior friend, when I said something critical about Yoga guru Baba Ramdev.

    I agree he’s got some very valid points, and the cause he’s taken up of uprooting corruption is undoubtedly a very valuable one. But being in such a prominent position, he shouldn’t be making irresponsible comments like “lets hang the corrupt politicians” because while corruption is unwanted, hanging is a really stupid solution.

    He replied “While Ramdev is uneducated, he has over 1 lakh supporters a lot of whom are highly educated. Can 1 lakh people be wrong?”
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  • molting process

    If we consider a snake, over time, it gets a new skin, and its old skin dies. Its not easy for the snake to get rid of the old skin. It has to wriggle through rocks and narrow spaces and put in considerable effort to get rid of the old skin. Its quite uncomfortable – a biological process called molting.

    If the snake’s skin is a metaphor for the habit patterns of our mind, a human being may hardly ever molt. (more…)

  • obituary of Sanjay

    Bangalore — Sanjay Mysoremutt, 36, died Thursday, June 2, 2011 at Bangalore. He leaves among others, his almost 4 year old jovial son, his affectionate wife, his caring mother and sister, family around the globe and many wonderful friends. He was, arguably not to an unreasonable extent, a gluttonous, slothful, inconsiderate, indifferent, professionally complacent, hypocritical, self-centered fellow, driven by an incessant need for attention and self-gratification. Finally, the miserable bastard kicked the bucket, good riddance! 😉

    On June 3rd, some fellow was born and by a wild coincidence had a striking resemblance to the same late Sanjay. Though somewhat over the hill aged 36 to start with, and still haunted by the ghost of his previous existence. there appeared to be remote possibilities that he’s a somewhat better version with a few bug-fixes. He is (relatively) more deeply committed to living an uncluttered, contributive life true to his own heart, and to the pursuit of happiness defined by the harmony of what one thinks, says and does.

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    Ha ha I hope I haven’t sounded too callous about myself – on the contrary I love life and myself – selfishness, slothfulness and all. I more or less consider myself and each person on the planet, as some internet video had said – ‘perfectly imperfect’ 🙂 However I do wish it was so easy to die each day and be born fresh the next day. I’ve found that a minimum of once a year is a very worthwhile, invaluable consideration!

  • luck at home

    Yesterday evening’s rain was phenomenal – they were the strongest winds I’d ever seen. From our 10th floor the view of the neighbouring building looked like a waterfall, with water flowing horizontally, it was an amazing sight!

    I had closed our window because the water usually comes in through it, but I had not known that my wife had opened them later again so that my office gets some fresh air. So later after we were down enjoying the view of the rain and dancing in the balcony with our son, I returned to my office and let out a shout! One of my office laptops (Acer Aspire 5520) was soaked!
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  • total perspective vortex: video?!

    I’ve mentioned earlier in one of the posts, that the first time I came across the Hitchhiker’s Guide To The Galaxy, it was just a very funny science fiction book that I read end to end – a laugh riot! Many years later, had chanced across it and read it again. This second read of this timeless book, I laughed again, but this time, the same books had an astonishing depth I’d never perceived before!

    Scientist Stephen Hawkings says about the author Douglas Adams: “I have seldom met a more congenial spirit. Obviously I knew he would be funny. What I didn’t know was how deeply read he was in science. I should have guessed, for you can’t understand many of the jokes in Hitchhiker if you don’t know a lot of advanced science.”

    Not just science, but a lot of his satire had striking descriptions of constructs in our metaphysical or social structure as well. For example, the total perspective vortex…
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