Today marks a year’s completion of married life. Having wished others countless number of times, this was the first time I ever celebrated my own wedding anniversary! 
Its been quite a good day – having started the day by waking up at 4 AM entirely by mistake (for almost a week I’ve been waking up around 8 AM and going late for work). We had a nice morning walk in Sankey Tank and got quite a few gifts at home on our return. I found a new tshirt in my cupboard this morning, and plan to get her a music system (portable one to keep on the desk – and plays tapes, cds and mp3s) She won’t be reading this post very soon, so it will still be a surprise for her! 😉
Later on Bellur visited us as well – he was the first one to ever wish me on an anniversary, having sent an SMS the previous day itself 🙂 Went out with family for lunch to Food Court on Cunningham Road where we experimented with a mix of Chinese, Mexican and Chaat. Later on in the evening we two had some quiet moments roaming around.
I think the year has been pretty good so far. I wanted to write many things, somehow when I’m actually writing this post, running short of words. Because I’ve found this almost impossible to express to anyone so far, even those very close to me so far – because I find that every time I try I end up getting thinged into some or the other completely irrelevant ‘typical category of married couples’. Everyone is unique, and so is every couple!
So will keep it brief here for now.
One thing is I feel, I am definitely a better person now than a year earlier, there happens to be a marked improvement in many aspects of my perception of life (and consequently my character and behaviour). Nothing extraordinary really, guess nobody else can make out, its merely a comparison of myself in certain situations to earlier (that probably only I remember). Needless to say, miles to go before I sleep.
I found Nipun’s wedding vows to be really useful guidelines, which maybe are kind of engraved in my heart. On a personal basis, I didn’t consider them as vows – because I didn’t want to stick to any pre-defined ideas.
Compared to all, this is the one guideline below that I value the most, and maybe kind of implicitly supports all the others as well:
Do you pledge to preserve and enrich your affection for each other, and to share it with all beings? To take the loving feelings you have for one another and your vision of each other’s potential and inner beauty as an example, and rather than spiraling inwards and becoming self absorbed, to radiate this love outwards to all beings? Do you pledge to expand your family to include all living beings?
I believe that anyone who can try out those guidelines will find that this life-experiment called marriage a thoroughly enjoyable one as it has been for me. In school, we learn that family is a unit of society. One thing I learnt from the past one year of experience, is that this unit is also a practice ground to develop understanding, respect and compassion – which one can then apply to the rest of the world as well! 😎
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